I'm getting back into shooting but my joints hurt, I'm slower and recoil is rough. What changes do older shooters make? I'm thinking about lighter stocks better grips, and easier safeties
To handle recoil, go for smaller calibers, recoil pads or muzzle devices. You should also think about using lighter stocks and grips for comfort. A gunsmith can help you get the perfect gun fit too.
You're on the right track. Light stocks and better grips are important...try to reduce recoil, a good muzzle brake or recoil pad will really help. You can also consider using a smaller caliber, you'll be able to shoot longer.